THE WHITE PAGE SYNDROME
If there is indeed an obstacle to the writing of the vows of marriage, it is this one. Here's what you should not do if you want to avoid it. First, do not impose a fixed day on the calendar to write your vows. Nothing is more stressful than having to find your words if you are not in a propitious day. There is of course no question of procrastinating until the day before the wedding. But do not put yourself under pressure.
Another tip to find inspiration: dive into your memories and return to the first moments of your common history. List what you liked most about your home, your most beautiful memories, and add a nostalgic session with a re-reading of your letters and sweet notes.
REFUSE TO WRITE THE MARRIAGE WISHES OF YOUR DEAR AND TENDER
Another difficulty in writing the vows is the risk of confronting you with the resistance of your other half. If he launches into a long monologue touting your predispositions for writing, say stop. Vows must be thought of, and written individually.
EXCHANGE OF VOWS TOO LONG
How do you know if you have yielded to the temptation to do too long? Two solutions. The first is to read your vows to a loved one and ask his opinion. The second is to save you and watch the counter. Knowing that a wedding ceremony lasts about an hour, do not spend more than 4 to 5 minutes exchanging your vows.
GIFTS TO THE DIAPASON
Another difficulty: how to harmonize your wishes with those of your future spouse, if you do not want him to know your text before the ceremony? The solution: Agree in advance on the length of the text and its general structure.
LEARN BY HEART
Another obstacle is to know your text. Even if during the ceremony you keep your document with you, learning it by heart will gain you confidence and give more emotion at this solemn moment.
THE HUMOR TRAIT
It is the pitfall to be avoided absolutely, the siren to which we must not yield. Especially if you have chosen a religious ceremony. The speeches in a humorous tone are perfectly suitable for reception. They may be misunderstood during the ceremony.
AVOID DETAILS WHICH FALSE
Exchanging marriage vows is not the time either to settle his accounts nicely. So avoid talking about the business it leaves behind or your "old life" if you experienced another relationship before it.
FUYEZ THE COPIER-COLLER
Even if you have difficulty writing them down, the wedding vows are intimate and personal. Do not look for inspiration in ready-made texts found on the internet or elsewhere. Dare to blemish and assume your own words. All the beauty of your vows will be precisely there.
